Monday, March 3, 2014

A Story


A Story
                                                                                                                                                              She puts way too much effort into her appearance. She’s just exercising. Little bits of fog hang over all of the trees she sees as she treads on the concrete walkways. Moving quietly along suburbia, she notices. Just like every morning at a quarter to seven before. Doorstep, lawn and garage, all pristine and glimmering, even in the gloom of a September Thursday. Each house perfectly groomed as though it was a spaniel preparing for the dog show. The yard. Embedded with tulips or lilies. Artificially colored woodchips line the sheered bushes. Sometimes she sees typical shapes such as vertical rectangles or little puffs here and there.
She walks on. Most of the residences are filled with lawyers or stockbrokers. Inhabiting this surreal and strange, magazine worthy quarters with a busty stay at home mother to accompany them to bed every night like clockwork. Those gals that always have a glass of red in their hands. They’ll have children too you know, a girl and a boy. Brunettes. Maybe the one little girl plays the flute. She’s shy, very shy. She has the most captivating blue eyes. A very thoughtful one she grew up to be. Maybe the boy plays soccer. He wants to do more with his life, though, those parents don’t understand. He wants to play Shakespeare in the school play, but… no. They would never let their boy act or even worse, sing. “He’s an athlete,” the father says. “He works hard, he trains right. And he’s not getting any younger, Patty. He’s gonna get that scholarship to Stanford in his senior year gosh darnet. He’s going to have a future. Like I did when I was his age.”
The little girl wants to draw and paint like her Aunt. Though, the Aunt isn’t allowed around anymore. She was thought as a bad influence on the children. The little girl wants to learn French when she grows up. She wants to travel to the place called the Eiffel Tower. She wants to explore the world like all of the girls she reads about at the library. She doesn’t want to spend hours learning Bach for no logical reason.
Years pass, it’s a short story. Boy and girl grow up and leave the parents. They pursue sports and classical music like they were told, have kids of their own, and never return to thank their parents for their so called, ‘right doings’. The parents are sad. They live alone, with nothing else to say, do or prove. Years pass. The father dies of lung cancer. Mother sits in her chair, wondering where the time has gone. Wishing she could’ve done it all over. Wishing she was on her walk, yet again through suburbia. Observing a life that she thought would never be hers. She stands up, gathers her strength… and looks out the window. She sees herself. Just walking through the bits of fog, and away to begin her life. 

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

The DL on Makeup

Red lipstick, mascara and blush. As a five year old, I would watch my big sister and mother primp for the "older lady events" as we called them in the family. Us little kids weren't allowed to go out to the fancy, sophisticated brunches with my aunts and grandmas. Though,  we, as in me, would love to sit and watch, the older ladies get ready for the events. 

I started wearing makeup, officially, when I was about twelve and a half. I always felt more grown up and I thought that I looked a lot better when I wore it, (though I feel a little differently now). I mentioned in my first article, that my mother is very excepting of most phases, but the accidental clumps of mascara under the eyes thing... not so much. She threatened a couple times that she would take away my makeup if I didn't apply it right. I do understand that though, (it did look a little ridiculous). I was just learning about myself and what the world has to offer me. So mascara, was definitely a sampling must. 
Being on a swim team and being in the water constantly, I probably shouldn't have started wearing makeup at all. But, I had my first serious boyfriend/crush... and truthfully, I was kind of ready to become a woman already. But, in the end, we know our moms just have our best interests at heart. Especially when they ban makeup use for a number of months when you're just getting into it, (silent grumble). What they say is true and comes from a place of love and knowing. I should trust my mom more often, but it's hard. Pride is a big thing with us teens... and it gets in the way, a lot. 

MTOTM
(aka, my thoughts on the matter)
If you don't want your daughter wearing makeup, or a lot of makeup right now, let her get some light colored, everything. That was a reverse psychology trick my mom used on me. "Yes, honey. Get some eyeshadow, lipstick and mascara, too. Oh, that lighter color will look better on you though." It won't be as dramatic and dark, though she'll still get those fun, 'eek I'm wearing makeup' jitters! Now a days, I'm into black and dark browns, but that's just because I have small eyes and I like to have more definition. 

Idea: Go online with her, and take some makeup quizzes. Here's one that I think you'll like! _>>>>>> http://www.youbeauty.com/quizzes/eye-makeup/responses/2893065/edit It'll tell her what type of eyeshadow and lip colors she should use for her signature looks. It will make the whole situation feel more thoughtful and personal to her and you <3

You totally know what to do. Just listen to her. Her feelings are real. <3 

Btw, I know this is cheesy, but, tell your daughter she is beautiful the way she is. She'll probably get annoyed by this because she's heard it so much already. The truth is, she is gorgeous


More love than you need
-The Classic Teen

Monday, February 3, 2014

~First Kiss Virgin

             Parents. I really do love mine. They encourage me in every way possible, from music, to sports, to school, and even when I'm with friends. They're very open to most things... except dating. Now, I'm a girl, a teenage girl. I love them, but I'm fourteen. I was just talking with my mom this morning and apparently she officially started dating when she was thirteen. My mother's rule is that I can't date until I'm sixteen. But the funny thing is, I kind of did have a boyfriend when I was 12/13 and she was mildly okay with it. But now, even the mere mention of the fact sets her teeth on edge. 

I sympathize for her though. I guess I understand, but sometimes us teens just choose not to see what's right in front of us. Maybe my grandma should have kept a closer eye on my mom and maybe my mom felt like she wasn't always there for her in the protective way. But, life is life. I know I won't want my daughter dating until she's ninety. <3 

MTOTM

(a.k.a, my thoughts on the matter) 

We're not very old and us Young girls LOVE romance. If a guy we like reaches for our hand and holds it for two seconds, we're in love!! But, we could get into a bad relationship and possibly get hurt emotionally or worse, physically. That's why, if you're not comfortable with your daughter dating just yet, tell her about some really bad dating experiences you've had over the years. I know she'll come around. Also, we know it's not the end of the world. We just want that kind of love in our lives. Once you get into your teens, you want Prince Charming ASAP! Just listen to her talk. Her feelings are real. <3

More love than you need, 
-The Classic Teen